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Mistakes in a Relationship

There can be no deep disappointment where there is not deep love. ~ Martin Luther King Jr. ~ [Source]

Having gone through a few relationships that didn’t work, there were lessons were to be learned from each failure. Mistakes occur when we expect too much. Or there is an expectation conflict. This is when both parties start to quarrel.

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For example, the wife expects the husband to help out with the housework during weekends while the husband expects to be able to enjoy his weekend by relaxing in front of the television or hanging out with his friends. This results in the wife resenting that he doesn’t want to help.

The husband feels that it’s the weekend and it’s his right to enjoy it. The wife feels that he should help out a little during the weekend instead of doing nothing. This may end up in resentment from both parties if both didn’t communicate the expectations to each other.

Making time for each other after having children can be a trying when the children are young and constantly demand your attention. Other reasons for not spending time together could be work commitments, family commitments and other various occasions. By not spending time alone together, couples drift apart.

This leads to communication problem. Remember your dating period? You were both so looking forward to meeting up with each other. Get that feeling back.

How about the time when your man was jealous of this other man hitting on you? You feel good that he is jealous but what if it escalates to the stage whereby he is controlling you? Jealousy stems from insecurity. Insecurity ties to previous experiences and it may just destroy that relationship that the both of you have been building up for years.

We make mistakes in our relationships. What mistake did you make and how did you overcome it in yours?

[Sources: Zen Habits, E-Zine, Love Advice]

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