Being scared of a Singaporean ex-daughter-in-law could mean that she could deal with your mother-in-law. She could have found a way to make her less dominating and controlling.

I am a non-Singaporean who is married to a Chinese-Singaporean man. My family came from a well to do family in our country and my mother knew that.

Our first apartement was not far from where my mother in-law lives. She had asked my husband for a spare key to our apartement and without my knowledge my husband had given her the key.

Imagine my horor that she came to our place anytime she wanted without first leeting us know that she would visit us. Sometimes, she brought along her siblings and her mother (my grand-mother in-law).

Not only that, she would open every drawer in the house (including the ones in our bed-room) and our wardrobe.

I was very pissed when she said mean things when my father passed away and the things she said about my mom and my sisters.

My mother in-law is a very money-minded, gossipy and controlling person. When I was pregant with our second child, we moved to a different neighbourhood. I told my husband family bluntly and firmly things that my mother in-law had done that I would not tolerate ever again. I have told my husband that I will speak up and won’t give in to my mother in-law if she dares to scold me in front of public or if she dares to do the horrible things she has done to me. I have told my husband that I will only visit my parents in-law on special occassions only when I feel like it.

Enough is enough.

I have told my husband that he need to learn to defend his wife.

The funny thing was my mother in-law was so scared of the wife (now is the ex-wife) of my husband younger brother. Was it because she was a Singaporean too?

For all mother in-laws out there, please respect your daughter in-law. Giver her space and do not critize or say mean things about her family.

Anyone else want to share her experience about this area?