Dealing With An Angry Spouse
Anyone can become angry - that is easy, but to be angry with the right person at the right time, and for the right purpose and in the right way - that is not within everyone’s power and that is not easy. ~ Aristotle ~ [Source]
There are times when your spouse gets angry and starts to yell at you for not being sensitive or being a selfish pompous being. You start being angry at the accusations and the both of you start yelling at each other, sometimes, including name calling.
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At this point, both of you may think that the other don’t love you. Words said out of anger don’t mean that you are being hated. Most of the time, it’s the action or in-action that is the final straw for your spouse. Before marriage, you leave the worn clothes all over the house while your mother may be tolerant as it’s your normal routine, your spouse may not tolerate it.
During the dating period, the both of you have been to each other’s place and seen the state. That is an indication of what will be going on after marriage. Getting angry with your spouse for not putting the worn clothes in the bucket meant for washing won’t help.
Stop the shouting match as it won’t help a thing. Your children would be scared of the noise and think that the both of you don’t love each other any more. Deal with the anger yourself. Give the both of you a timeout to cool down so that you will listen to each other.
If the other party is still angry, you should calm down and think positive. There are different types of anger, identify them and keep the relationship stronger. Anger has a cause, identify it and tackle it. The most important part is not to get physical. Violence will get you no where except a divorce.
Remember to keep yourself in check. By knowing why you are angry, it is a step towards building a meaningful relationship together.
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And once shouting starts, communication breaks down. Which you rightly pointed out where you said they don’t listen to each other.
So! Everyone pls find a non-shouting partner pls….
krisandro It’ll be great if one can find a non-shouting partner. Most of the time, it’s better to let one shout than walk away. Arguing can get out of hand when both thinks the other is not listening when they walk away. It’s a way to show control.